mmmmm…….
Big topic :)
It took me almost 25 years to understand what is and how can someone use this powerful “skill” to have the result that he desire at his will. Actually there are two outcomes that one can achieve with mastering the sexuality:
1.
“just friends relationship”(FZ);
2.
“couple
relationship” [CR – this doesn’t
necessarily means a LTR(long term
relationship)
it can be an ONS(one night stand)
or FB(fuck buddies)].
Lately I have been asked a lot of questions like: “how can I
go out of a FZ?” or “what do I have to do to make her see me more than just a
friend?” and the answer is very simple: “you have to be sexual”.
But first of all let’s see what the “mathematics” is saying:
a.
Connection (friendship) = “Just Friendship” ---
if you don’t add anything how can
you expect to have other results?
b.
Connection (friendship) + Sexuality = “Couple
Relationship” (FZ+S=CR)
So technically speaking sexuality is the “switcher” to
“play” with your “relationship status”; if one wants to get out of a CR the
first thing to do is to eliminate the sexuality [CR-S=FZ (mathematics again :) )]; if one wants to go
in a CR, one of the first things to do is to add
sexuality. Neither one of this two directions (going in or getting out) is easy
to follow in order to achieve your goal and I’m not going to talk more about
them cause’ is another subject and it’s a complex one though I will only mention that like everything else these
are based on a process and if u learn the “going in process (GIP)” when u want
to get out u have to reverse the “GIP”.
Now, after we finished with the “equations” let’s see what
really sexuality is or how can u be sexual:
“Sexuality is anything that can help you to arouse your
partner: eye contact, tonality of the voice, lips movements, kissing, soft
touching, caressing, cuddling, French kissing, rubbing, blowing, licking,
fucking, hardcore sex “ (if I forgot something give me a mail and I’ll add it :) ). All this things are
“Helpers” and is just our job to activate them; the activation can be made thru
three ways: Visual, Auditory and Kinesthetic, commonly known as: visual, conversational
and physical(kino).
Like I previously said this is a process and knowing where
you are is very important because it will help you to calibrate the sexuality;
for instance the three most common mistakes are:
-entering in comfort(C) without any sexuality (that will
more probably head u to the FZ
than in S);
-in S you don’t calibrate it enough [that will give u more
chances to get a last minute
resistance (LMR)];
-in LTR you don’t raise the level and increase the amount of
sexuality (than the
connection will fade);
To overcome these mistakes we have to understand that by
adding sexuality to a process it transforms the sexuality in a process of its
own, so is more appropriate to say that is a process inside of a process which gives
us the next big key: sexuality process name is……Sexual Escalation. It’s called
escalation because it’s progressively
increase the intensity of the sexuality from 0(which is when you are “flying
under her radar”) till as much as u want to go with it, the only thing to take
in consideration is that all SE needs is calibration.
So now we have:
-
a name:
Sexual Escalation;
- helpers;
- three ways to activate them: visual sexual
escalation(VSE), conversational sexual
escalation(CSE) and kino escalation(KE);
-
a way to keep it under our control: calibration.
To make your life easier is better if you start the SE from
the beginning of the process (Game) so in this way u have the both processes
matching rather than running with sexual escalation to catch the Game. Because it depends very much on calibration the escalation is
not a predefined thing, you can do whatever is right for that moment.
Use the “skill” wisely!
p.s. this can be used by both men and women.
