I think that every man, mostly in
their youth, went thru oneitis period and if not everyone, at least a lot of us did (maybe some are that proud of themselves that they don’t want to admit
it :) ) So is not a big deal, is not something that we have to feel ashamed of. I mean if you think about it, is
natural: a young uneducated man seeing a girl like the princess of his heart kingdom, even honey can’t be sweeter
than this, right?
Now, the only problem with it
is that MIB (men in becoming :) ) are fucking suffering because of their own “sweetness”,
they try everything they possibly can to attract that girl. But because
they step ahead of their time there are more
chances to screw things up, than run away with the girl of their dreams. And
you know what the strangest part is that it’s ok. Think about it for one min:
you are still young, you are in that period when you are free to experiment all
the… more or less normal things, you are not mature
enough around women, yet , but you are hungry for learning, so now is the time
when you can create a better environment for your future, now is the time when
you will become more mature and emotional intelligent. Bringing in your conscious all this premises
for your development why do you want to get anchored in a world which is not
yours yet?
Women come and go in someone’s life, they can help you to
improve your life or they can help you destroy
it; it’s your job to protect your life and of those you love. I had once an
oneitis so I know how it is to have what you think is the girl of your dreams
in front of you and not being able from various reasons to have her but, in
time, I changed my visions and my…. dreams [well I didn’t change them, I just
upgraded the existing ones. Nobody is forcing you to change everything you know,
but the best choice for us is to upgrade ourselves, and guess what? if we
upgrade ourselves, automatically, like a consequence, everything what surrounds
us will upgrade: our relations, our expectations, our way of seeing things (more
specifically the point from where we see the same things )] and when I finally
realized that I can evolved more without something which keeps me in the past
my life started to improve…. big time. In the same time I know that is fucking
difficult to pass over it but, looking back, I thing that is the right thing to
do. Anyway, a real “just friendship”, between a man and
a woman can’t exist because at least one of them, at a certain point,
will fell attracted to the other one. Unless they clarify the “attraction
issue” and even if is like this, for a man to grow is better if he stay away
from that type of friendship, for him in the most cases is…. unhealthy, is like
a disease.
Is difficult for a man to acknowledge that he is in this
kind of mind set so that’s why is good when you fell something strange is
happening with you just talk with someone, preferably with someone who knows
and who can give you some pointers for this.
The cure for this kind of “disease” is to go out from the
“relationship”, improve your social circle, bring new activities in your
routine, go out and socialize with as many girls as you can, improve your
informational intelligence. Nobody deserves more to improve his life than you
do, nobody deserves to keep you away from your goals and most definitely nobody
is entitled to “help” you to destroy your life.
In the beginning it will be difficult to step out from your
comfort zone, mmm…… but what the fuck, if it wasn’t hard everybody had done
it. After you do it you will discover
another road ahead and you’ll step on that rode with courage and wisdom and
after you resist the temptation to go back you will create a new comfort zone,
but once you did this is time to leave that comfort zone once more because in the end, the tricky part about creating a
comfort zone is that as soon as we finish creating one we have to leave it for
the next one which is an improved version of the previous one.
So don’t get stuck in the past, allow yourself the freedom
to create your bright future.
